I first discovered the power of EROTIC MASSAGE in my hands in 1986 whilst making the macabre masterpiece Gothic. It was on the last night of filming and Ken Russell, the director (and my friend) had pulled a muscle in his back while shouting "CUT" yet again during the thunderstorm scene. Sorry Ken, I was cold!

You’ll need:
Some flowers
Baby oil

1. Beautify and sensualise the room with flowers. You may consider taking a bath or shower together before the massage.

2. Place the ball of your hand on the subject's shoulder (in my case, Ken Russell), just below the shoulder blade.

3. Knead the muscles until you feel them warm up and bend under your will.

4. Think sensual.

5. Place one palm on each shoulder blade, fingers pointing towards the sacrum, and push along the spine (in my case, Ken's spine). You may find that your knees and feet ache at first. If so, place a folded blanket between your buttocks and your heels.

6. Visualise your partner's sexual shame and inhibition slowly dispersing, like fog in the sun (like I did with Ken's sexual shame).

7. Think healing

Once the gate of trust is open and the dragon is awake, Ken (or your subject) will announce he is tired. Time for bed!

Next month: Julian's Sounds. Wizard!